Updated: Aug 10
Decide for yourself: Are you wanting a comfortable or an interesting life?
Neither one is the right answer per say, it just has to be right for you. So be honest with yourself. It all depends on your definition of comfortable vs. interesting. For someone a comfortable life could mean having all the riches, and for another, not having any responsibilities in the world could be more comfortable. For some, putting themselves out there and living the dream could be the interesting life, and for others hanging out with artists in coffee shops all day could be the most interesting thing there was.
Grass is not greener on the other side. Make the grass greener where you are. (Click Here to Tweet!)
Don't look up to a world that you'd never be comfortable with and wish you were there. Don't wish for a life and world of a celebrity and going out all the time when you don't even like getting ready and would rather cancel all of the plans and snuggle at home watching Netflix with your takeout.
Call it by what it is. You like watching the outside world and sometimes participating in it, but you don't want to be "ON" all the time. You like being comfortable, and that's okay! Interesting life, most of the time, requires putting yourself out there, a lot. It's in the eye of the beholder anyway, your comfortable life is interesting to you and that's all that matters.
I realized this when looking at one of my plans for my future. At one point my ideal day looked like running around like a chicken with its head cut off. Because I thought that's what it was supposed to look like. Yes, that was my life at one point. For instance, when I was in college, having 24 units in one semester, interning, going to three events every night, and dating someone new every couple of weeks made it an interesting life (to me). But it wasn't comfortable. I was definitely sleep-deprived, spreading myself too thin, and not focusing on the most important things. But man, was it interesting!
And as for my ideal day now, or in the future, I don't need that anymore. I still get all of the things done without freaking out, stressing out, or panicking. (To learn how, get my 10 times more Productivity Guide (without all the hustle) HERE!) You could argue I get more done now because I'm not at three events per night. But I can definitely have days when I do that, and it balances itself out because it's not every day. And because of the comfort and taking care of myself, I can take better care of others and their needs.
When I produce now, I know not to spread myself too thin, not do everything myself, have support from others who want to help. That way I can concentrate on the most important jobs that I'm good at. There's still a lot of work, I'm not slacking, but I'm not overdoing either. Not saying my way is the only way, just showing you how I figured it out and how you can too!
So be comfortable in your comfort. Really own it. Don't think that your life will change dramatically when you get a million bucks or become famous. You can still have a wonderful, quiet life. You'll show your face at important events and you'll Netflix and chill other times. Don't make yourself uncomfortable by choosing life you think you want that interests you, but is more fit for fast-paced humans who can handle stressful situations. If your life ever becomes fast-paced and you're not comfortable with it, you can tone it down. Focus on what's most important to you.
And if you just read all of that and you're having none of it, then you're into that fast-lane interesting life of always doing something, meeting people, and you're probably a true extrovert. It's okay, you don't have to guilt yourself or be guilted into quitting your lifestyle to settle down, get married, and have kids. If that's not you, and you know it is if you keep pushing that "plan" back every year, then give yourself the freedom to live your life the way you want to live it! You want to be able to go out at all hours of the day (or night), not answer to anyone, and live that interesting life, whether it's traveling the world, being at every premiere, or knowing everyone's name. And that is great too! You're probably an entrepreneur.
Play your cards right and you can have your cake and eat it too. You can be married and have an interesting life with an understanding partner, or you can totally be dating and living a comfortable life from your bedroom with your online significant other. There are so many variables and options, and you can customize your life however you want! But stop telling yourself you'll settle down someday if you feel weird even thinking about it. Just live in your wonderful present! And stop telling yourself you'll become an extrovert if you're just not. Look up to the lives of people with similar values, life patterns, and just merely watch everyone else.
Just be honest with yourself. Live life the best way for you, do things that work for you, not what you think best version of you would be like. If you can't bring yourself to do something in the present, it's probably not going to happen in the future. I know I have my spurts of interesting life, but I'd rather be creating in my own little world than seeking out the risks that interesting life comes with. I will make my path in time. I'm not a shortcut girl and I know that about myself. Some people would rather not even have a creative career because freelancing is too risky for them and they'd rather be comfortable in a stable job. But to me, comfort comes from doing what you want and love.
And for the people with interesting lives, keep doing what you do! We need to watch and admire you. We need to see the drama, the real-life soap, TMZ, have that friend we're proud of who's traveled 150 countries, or maybe you're someone helping lions and elephants. But don't do it for us to look up to you, do it for yourself. Do it because you truly love doing it, not because you have to upkeep some version of you we might be watching. And someday you might get tired of it and rid of it completely. You might never show your face again, like Bettie Page, and that's okay! And we'll still say, "My! What an interesting life she had!"
But do it for you.
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If you're a comfort person: What does comfort mean to you? What is more interesting when it's comfortable?
If you're a risk-taker: What does interesting life mean to you? What comfort are you able to give up to live the kind of life you want?
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